When my daughter, Lucy, was born three years ago, I knew I needed to get life insurance. But as a single parent, I was stumped when it came time to select a beneficiary. Should I name my father, who, at 82 years old, is more focused on his own end-of-life options? I also have two brothers, one who has kids and one who doesn’t. If I were to die, which brother would be up to the task of managing a policy payout?
I’m not alone in my confusion. When I shared my experience, an unmarried friend in a domestic partnership shared her own, entirely different, set of questions when deciding whether the beneficiary on her life insurance policy should be her partner or her parents.
While a good rule of thumb may be to choose the person who would be most financially impacted by your death, the decision can get confusing, especially if you have several people in your life who may have co-signed on loans or mortgages, be actively involved in raising your child, or may financially depend on you.
Knowing what a beneficiary is and how a beneficiary is named may help you narrow down the best decision for your situation.
What is a beneficiary?
A beneficiary is a person who will receive the payout for a life insurance policy if you were to die. The proceeds from the payout can be used to help avoid financial hardship that can come with death, such as funeral arrangements and other end-of-life expenses along with day-to-day bills like the mortgage and childcare.
You can name two (or more) people as beneficiaries, outlining the percentage of the policy payout each would be given. You can also name a contingent beneficiary, who could receive the death benefit if something happened to the primary beneficiary.
For some, naming two beneficiaries — say, a partner and a parent — may make sense, especially if both could face financial hardship. For others, one beneficiary, with a contingent beneficiary named, makes the most sense. The latter is what we commonly see at Haven Life.
Who should you name as a beneficiary?
Who you name as a beneficiary is unique to your own circumstances. One substantial reason people purchase a life insurance policy is for peace of mind when it comes to family. Think about it this way, your life insurance is really their safety net. If you live with your partner, would they still be able to pay bills or a mortgage without your income? Similarly, if you provide support to your parents, how would they financially survive without you around? Would they be responsible for taking on any of your debt?
Maybe your parents co-signed on your mortgage or student loans or helped you out with a downpayment. Maybe your partner had to take a step back from their job when yours relocated. While what you “owe” everyone in your life is dependent on the terms of those specific agreements, thinking about this question can help you assess how the money from a payout may be used.
Here, some common scenarios new policyholders face when having to select a beneficiary:
I’m married with kids
Congrats, you’ve got it easy. If you’re married with kids, naming a spouse as a primary beneficiary is the go-to for most people. This way, your partner can use the proceeds of the policy to help provide for your kids, pay the mortgage, and ease any economic hardship that your death would bring. This is true even if one spouse is a stay-at-home parent. If he or she were to pass away, how would childcare and household upkeep be paid for? In this case, it could be smart for both spouses to have a policy with their partner named as the primary beneficiary, Don’t forget to also include contingent beneficiaries, which would usually be parents or designated guardians for the kids.
I’m married with no kids
You, too, should have a straightforward decision for naming a beneficiary. In this case, most people list their partner as a beneficiary and a parent as a contingent beneficiary.
Brittney, communications director at Haven Life, named her husband, Clayton, as the primary beneficiary and her mom as the contingent beneficiary in case something happened to Clayton. The 20-year, $500,000 policy she purchased is enough for her husband to pay off the mortgage and have some extra cash to help him live comfortably financially.
Other beneficiary considerations for married couples without kids: A charity you love, family members who you financially support, a close friend, or your sibling.
I’m a single parent
You may be buying a term life insurance policy to help ensure your child will be taken care of financially if you were to die. You can name a child as a beneficiary, but you should be aware that life insurance companies cannot pay out a policy to a minor. When a minor is a primary beneficiary, most states utilize the Uniform Transfer to Minors Act, which allows the proceeds from a life insurance benefit to transfer to a child’s named custodian. This can get complicated, though, which is why it’s important to list a custodian immediately upon naming a minor as a beneficiary. (For example, at Haven Life, if a minor is listed, we required a custodian be named in order to complete the beneficiary designations.)
Other options are: naming a trust as beneficiary on behalf of your child, or you could name a trusted family member, who you know has the best interest of your child in mind, who may also be the custodian named in your will.
If you’re a single parent whose financial plans overlap with a family member — for example, maybe you have a multigenerational living arrangement in place — those circumstances should also come into play with your decision.
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I’m single with no kids
If your parents or another family member cosigned a mortgage, student loan, or car loan, naming them as a beneficiary will ensure that they can shoulder the financial terms of the agreement if you were to die. Additionally, consider who would be likely to take the lead in funeral arrangements for you. Naming this person as beneficiary can prevent them from the financial burden of a funeral (or help them plan the greatest funeral of all time.)
Remember: you can always change your beneficiary as your life circumstances change. But kudos to you for getting a policy while you’re young and healthy. The long-term cost savings on life insurance are absolutely worth it.
I have multiple financial obligations to family members
You don’t necessarily need to choose one beneficiary. With Haven Life, you can choose up to 10 primary beneficiaries, which you can designate how much of a percentage of the death benefit they would receive if you were to die. Of course, the more beneficiaries you name, the less money would go to each. In general, most people name one or two primary beneficiaries, and one or two contingent beneficiaries to ensure that their bases are covered.
How to select a contingent beneficiary
A contingent beneficiary is a person who the life insurance payout would go to if the primary beneficiary was no longer able to receive the benefit (for example, if both you and your partner were to die at the same time). Think of them like an understudy to the primary beneficiary.
For example, if you’re married with kids, a contingent beneficiary could be the guardian named in your will. No one likes thinking about what would happen if both parents were to die at the same time, but going through this thought process can ensure that your children would be financially taken care of even if you were both no longer here.
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How to properly name a beneficiary
It’s smart to let your beneficiary or beneficiaries know that they’re named. Not only can this help you make sure you have all the information you need — including correct spellings — but it can help avoid confusion, hurt feelings, or misunderstandings if you were to die. Be prepared to submit the following when naming your beneficiaries – the more specific you are, the better:
- Full name
- Date of birth
- Relationship to Insured
- Phone number
- Amount or percentage they should receive
- Social Security Number (optional)
When should a beneficiary be a trust?
While I ended up naming my brother as a beneficiary for my life insurance policy — he’s also named as my daughter’s guardian in my will — I could have established a trust to be named as my life insurance beneficiary as a way to ensure that my daughter be provided with the funds from a policy payout.
The option of creating a trust has benefits for married couples, too. If both were to die, a trust ensures that a life insurance payout will be used for the wishes of the insurance policy owner, and can avoid a lengthy court process.
Establishing a trust can help parents direct how much money and at what age their children receive it. It also provides a trusted family member, friend, or a professional trustee with the ability to provide the needed oversight, guidance, and control to ensure that the funds are used wisely for the long-term benefit of your children.
“The trustee, typically a family member, can distribute the funds to the children per the trust’s specifications, says Chris Huntley, author of ‘Life Insurance Beneficiaries and Minor Aged Children.’ “For example, the trust may allow for annual distributions to be made to the new guardian/s to help raise and care for the child, or allow money for his/her first car or tuition for college.”
If considering a trust, consult with a tax advisor to ensure that you aren’t accidentally setting up a situation where proceeds from a life insurance policy will be regarded as a gift. Most of the time, life insurance proceeds aren’t taxable, but if the beneficiary, insured, and policy owner are three different people, you may need to reconsider the structure of your life insurance policy.
When naming a trust as a beneficiary, you must include:
- Name of Trust
- Tax ID Number (SSN/ EIN)
- Date of Trust
- Type of Trust.
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Common mistakes when naming a beneficiary
Turns out, naming a minor (without a custodian) as a beneficiary is a relatively common mistake that I’m glad I narrowly avoided making. Knowing what not to do can also help you suss out the best person to name as a beneficiary. Some other things that trip up policyholders when naming a beneficiary:
Not telling someone they are the beneficiary – While this might seem like a surprising scenario, it’s pretty common. No one likes to talk about or even think about death. Talking through your wishes — and hearing your would-be beneficiary’s input — brings up important questions and discussions that can help clarify if you’re on the same page. And, it’ll provide you both with peace of mind. Make sure your beneficiary knows you purchased a policy, how much it’s for and where they can find the details of the contract in the event of your death. Use this time to also make sure all their information, including date of birth, address, up to date contact info and social security number, is accurate.)
Naming a minor as beneficiary – Legally a child under 18, and in some states 21, can’t access a life insurance death benefit. If you haven’t named a legal guardian or set up a trust to manage the money, the court will handle distributing the death benefit for you, which can get very complicated. There are a few ways to navigate this tricky situation. The easiest solution is to set up a UTMA custodianship with the life insurance company. This ensures that the child receives the full death benefit for the policy. You’ll also need to name a custodian who will be responsible for the assets until your child is no longer deemed a minor by the state (typically between ages 18 and 21). Another option is to set up a trust fund that can receive the life insurance proceeds. If you decide to go the trust route, make sure it specifies how the money should be delivered – installments, a lump sum when the child turns a particular age, etc.
Forgetting to update your beneficiaries – Just like you should review your policy needs after major life events, you should also revisit your policy beneficiaries and the listed information periodically. Common oversights include incorrect contact information, listing a former spouse, or listing a legal guardian when a child is no longer a minor. The last thing a beneficiary should have to worry about when losing a loved one is how to collect the proceeds, which they may need immediately to cover timely expenses.
Not considering government assistance – If your beneficiary receives government assistance of any kind, you’ll want to ensure that receipt of a death benefit from your life insurance policy won’t disqualify them from further assistance. For example, if you have a special needs child and name him or her as your beneficiary, they may no longer be eligible for government assistance because of the sum of the “gift.” This is another instance where you’d want to look into naming their legal guardian as the beneficiary or establishing a special needs trust fund.
Assuming a will covers all updates – Your life insurance policy is a legal contract, which means the terms listed on it are the ones that go into effect if you die. Your will does not control or trump this contract. For example, if your will lists the beneficiary as your husband and the life insurance policy has your ex-husband listed as the beneficiary, the death benefit will be paid to your ex. Best to avoid that potentially uncomfortable situation altogether by consistently monitoring your beneficiary designations.
(Accidentally) making your death benefit taxable – Here is where things can get pretty tricky. Typically, a life insurance death benefit is received free from federal income tax. However, there are situations where the payout is considered a taxable income event or a “gift” that could be subject to federal and state gift taxes. This can occur if a third-party beneficiary is involved (someone who isn’t the owner or the insured) then the death benefit is deemed a gift and may be subject to gift tax. For example, if you are the owner of a policy that’s covering your spouse and then name your child as a beneficiary. To avoid this, the insured and the owner should be the same person.
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Beneficiaries: The Heart and Soul of Life Insurance
The purpose of purchasing a life insurance policy is to provide financial security for your loved ones. To do that, you must name someone as the beneficiary.
It’s important not to treat naming a beneficiary like a checkbox in your life insurance application process. Be thoughtful about who you are naming as a beneficiary, the information you provide on them and periodically check in to ensure accuracy.
No matter what your personal circumstances are right now, one thing is clear: Buying a life insurance policy now, and potentially re-naming a beneficiary if your life circumstances change, provides the best mix of affordability and peace of mind. For instance, a 30-year-old healthy single woman may be able to purchase a 30-year, $500,000 Haven Term policy, issued by MassMutual, for $27 a month. Those 30 years could be filled with many huge life milestones like getting married, buying a home, having a child… having a second child — all of which will benefit from the peace of mind that affordable coverage was secured long ago. Due diligence early on and throughout the life of your policy would save your loved ones unnecessary stress and potentially a lot of money if anything were to happen to you.
Anna Davies is an editor at Haven Life. She has written for The New York Times, New York Magazine, Refinery29, Glamour, Elle, and others, and has published 13 young adult novels. She lives in Jersey City, NJ, with her family and loves traveling, running, and trying to find the best cold brew coffee in town.
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